So child abuse is a subject that should ONLY be addressed by professionals in the field of psychology. So what about ex police? Those notable child abuse experts Jim Gamble and Mark Williams-Thomas, are they trained psychologists? Is the subject of 'child abuse' safe in their hands?
If a child is abused, do they have to get a degree in psychology before they are allowed to discuss it?
For those screaming I am not 'qualified' to address the subject of child abuse, I have a degree in Humanities, and as a writer, I have spent a lifetime studying psychology and human behaviour. I also spent several years of my childhood in the care of psychopaths. Ergo, I have a heightened sense of injustice, a will to pursue it, and the ability to spot bullshit in a nanosecond. If anything, I am over qualified. I want to know what it is that produces pure evil. I don't yet know the answer, but I am getting ever closer.
Meanwhile, if my words of empowerment can resonate with even one struggling family, or single mum', or dad, then I know that I have done the right thing. My words are addressed to the 'young me', to the young mums and dads out there struggling to know what is right and what is wrong and they are putting their faith in people who are giving them advice that is terribly, horribly, wrong.
If we raise our children to be victims, then that is what they will grow up to be. If we tell them on a daily basis, that they are incredible, amazing and have the power to be whatever they want, their lives will be completely different. Negative energy attracts negative energy, and positive, attracts positive.
These child protection professionals are programmed to deal with the aftermath, I am tackling the prevention, and I make no apologies for it. The best way to protect kids is to raise them in such a way, that they can protect themselves. Parental responsibility doesn't stop at care and control, it includes teaching their young how to survive.
Having raised two children as a young, single, working mother, I have experienced exactly the same hazards and pitfalls of many of my readers. I was fortunate because I had an amazing, enlightened father, who was way ahead of his time in the field of raising children. He taught my brother and I how to read and write BEFORE we started school and for my critics, no, he wasn't a 'teacher', he was a hospital cook at the time, how dare he eh! Demarcation and all that.
I didn't always take his advice, preferring to listen to the raging hormones instead, and I fell the 'bad men' - I didn't move them in, but I saw the effects first hand, because a lot of my friends and work colleagues did. Its one of the hardest things in the world to raise kids on your own and at times it can be heartbreakingly lonely. Young single mothers are among the most vulnerable groups in society, particularly for predatory, controlling men with a penchant for disciplining kids. And again, I stress, physical and mental abuse is far more prevalent and equally as damaging as sexual abuse.
What I am preaching (and I do hate to preach) is self empowerment. If you fall to pieces because some Norman No-Mates has published one of his sick fantasties about you online, then you will have a very difficult (both real and cyber) life indeed and the internet is probably not for you. The old adage 'sticks and stones' still applies. Punishing your name callers and the critics, will not stop the name calling and the criticism. I used to tell the nuns 'I swear not to say 'whatever' again' with my fingers crossed behind my back, and a vow in my head to keep on thinking it.
Unfortunately, NNMs are everywhere, some of them acquire mates through dubious means and pacts, but they will attack and spit venom regardless. The only thing that matters is the way in which you handle it. That I said I 'squish' those who snap at me on twitter, brought cries of shock, horror and outrage. These matters should be dealt with through the 'proper' authorities, not one line gags. Ouch. Next time, I'll report it to the police, get a crime number, and start a Petition for the next NNM to be de-bollocked.
Why is it so dangerous to advise people to empower themselves? Why should that power be reserved for a select few? The sheer snobbery of those who have responded to my opinions on child abuse post astounds me. ANYONE can read about and discuss any subject, philosophy, psychology, politics, cooking, the Hadron Collider, etc, etc, etc. There are no closed doors. And if a subject interests me I don't need any form of authority or permission to research and discuss it, and my sympathy lies with those restricted by those boundaries that say they do.
Anything I publish is based on years of research and life experience, and guided by honesty and integrity. The advice I am giving is based on The Secret known by every successful person who has ever lived and bits I clearly practiced to survive thus far, and of course the words of my mother when I entered the convent, 'if those bastads come near ya, fecking give 'em what for'.