I have watched over the past couple of days interviews with the outraged (Piers Morgan) and read the comments of similarly twisted loonies. Their blood pressure soaring because a young couple they don't know, and never will, want to choose their own futures. Piers Morgan, still stinging from not getting an invite to the wedding has led the charge, if his whining voice didn't have slot on breakfast TV, he would be out boiling Meghan's bunny.
It must have been totally bizarre for Meghan, a young independent woman with a successful acting career, and the freedom do whatever she wanted to find herself confined within a rigid institution with strict codes and conventions, and a system of hierarchy that she must have found baffling. A family that refers to each other by Title rather name or familial terms of endearment. A family with strict boundaries between themselves and their servants. A clear divide in status and class. Hard to argue equality while living in a palace. As much fun as it must be having people bow to you, and indeed, spending time in the Victorian era, for a modern, woke, young woman like Meghan, her life probably turned into a 'Black Mirror' nightmare.
For Harry it is a world he has grown up in, he has never known anything different, and should they stay put, he never will. Meghan is an American, her life and background were totally different. We brits kind of know what the House of Windsor is all about, we have grown up with the curtsying, bowing and waving, but for a foreigner, an American especially, it would be 'jees, are you for real?' I am sure Harry explained, as best he could, what life would be like living in a gilded cage, but maybe downplaying the cage part.
The media have been merciless in their pursuit of Meghan, so too those who felt the need to express their hatred on social media. It has been sickening to watch, so this continued deference to an elderly woman who has spent her entire reign clinging onto 'the old ways'. The Royal Family needs shaking up. Maybe by not seeing us as peasants, and themselves as chosen by God would be a good start. Especially that a'hole Prince Andrew. What astounds me most, is that no-one ever questions or criticises the Queen, what she says goes, she is the 'word', albeit she is 93, and in any other profession would have been retired years ago. Imagine for a moment what life would be like living under her rules? Now spare a moment's thought for Meghan, and indeed the former wives of Windsor.
Meghan knows what life is like outside of the Royal family and she has introduced that 'outside' life to Harry. For William there is no choice and it must hurt that Harry is able to do, what he is not. William cannot step down, his heirs are way too young. Queen Elizabeth inherited the throne because her Uncle didn't want it and she thinks it killed her father. It caused a huge split in the family, the old Duke and Duchess of Windsor were exiled to France, no longer part of 'the Firm'. The Queen is ruled by 'duty', for her there has never been an option. But I am sure, as everyone who watched 'The Crown' would agree, she loves it.
I wish Harry and Meghan all the best, and it was good to see so much support for them despite all the vitriol on social media, Ok, we aren't all super rich like them, but we all have the freedom to choose our own paths in life, and the thought of giving up that choice would be comparable to living in a cage. Their cage may be gilded, but it's still a cage.